Ngomhlaka 21 Mashi, uNyaka oMusha ubungaphezu kwezinyanga ezingama-12, yisikhathi sokuvuka kwezakhiwo zemvelo, nendawo yokushintshisana phakathi kwezinto eziphezulu neziphansi. Njengoba amandla elanga eba phezulu, amandla okuphila ahamba phakathi kwezulu nomhlaba, lapho isikhathi sikhanya ngempilo nokwamanje, abadlali bendawo babeka isikhumbuzo enkabeni yomhlabathi, bephetha ngenkonzo yobungcwele yokuzilungisela. Lokhu akusikho kuphela umcimbi, kodwa kuhlanganisa inqubo yokuhlanza ngokuphelele, ukuvikela, ukuhuthukisa indawo yamandla, kanye nokwehla komsebenzi omuhle nokuqeda imimoya emibi. Le ndatshana izodingida kabanzi ukuthi abadlali baphakathi bazithola kanjani izinsiza zokuxhumana, besebenzisa amabhamuza alungile nabantu bendawo ukuze bafeze umgomo wokuholela kumsebenzi omuhle, ukuvula izimfihlo zokudlule, nokuqonda ukuziphatha, kuvikele ukuphepha kokuhamba.
Okwokuqala, ukubaluleka kwamandla kwesikhathi sokuqala sentshonalanga kanye namandla ayimfihlo esikhumbuzweni semasimini
Ukwenzeka kwesikhathi sokuqala sentshonalanga kuwumguyo wobubanzi bamashumi amabili nane, okukhombisa ukuthi kuphelile umjikelezo oldlule, kuqala imbali entsha. Kulolu suku, ukuhamba kwamandla ezulu nomhlaba kuthuthuka kakhulu, kusebenza kahle ukuqala izifiso ezintsha, nokwenza ukushintsha kwamandla. Imasimini iyindawo eduze komthombo wemvelo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwemizi, umhlaba unokuhlanza okuphezulu, okusiza umuntu ukuthi amandla akhe axhume futhi aphendule amandla omhlaba nemvelo. Ngakho-ke, abadlali bakhetha ukuvula isikhumbuzo esivulekile emasimini, bebonisa ukudalwa kokuba yingxenye yemvelo, besebenzisa amandla ezulu nomhlaba ukuze baphumelele futhi benze izivumo zokuvikela, besungula umkhawulo oqinile wamandla okuvikela.
Okwesibili, izinyathelo eziyimfanelo zokwakha isikhumbuzo kanye nokuhleleka kwezakhiwo
1. Ukukhetha indawo: Khetha indawo ephephile, enhlaka elibanzi nesihle emaphakathi kwemijololo, kude nezikhala zokuphazamiseka.
2. Ukuhlanza indawo: Sebenzisa amanzi ahlanzekile ukusabalalisa emhlabeni ophakanyisiwe, uhlelo lokucabanga lokukhulula amandla angcolile, uqinisekise ukuthi isikhala sihlanzekile.
3. Ukubeka izimpawu zokwakheka kwemijololo: Sebenzisa izinto zepulasitiki, amatshe, okwakhiwa ngezinkuni njll. Ukubeka ezinjengomnikelo wokuhlonipha imijololo yamashumi amabili nane, futhi ubeke umfanekiso wokuqala endleleni.
4. Ukuhlunga amathuluzi: Beka amathuluzi wokuxhumana njengezindandatho, izikhanya, izinsimbi, nebhakede, behlukaniswa ngesiNdebele, nezintaba, kuzo zonke izimfanelo, ukuze uvikele izindawo ezizungezile.
5. Beka izimpawu zomuntu ophakathi (njengezikhumbuzo, izinto zakudala, amakhasi, namatshe); ngezimpawu zomuntu ophakathi nalemvelo njengezikhumbuzo.
6. Faka izinto zemvelo: Ungasebenzisa amahlamvu amasha, umhlabathi wemaweda, inkanyezi yasemini njll., ubeke ukuthokozisa lapho isikhumbuzo, ukuvumela imvelo ukuba ibe yingxenye yokuxhumana.
7. Lungisa uzinzo: Abadlali kufanele banqobe ukugqoka izingubo eziluhlaza, bahlale ngezinyawo, bahlale esikhumbuzweni ngesikhathi sokucabanga, bagxile phezulu.
Okwesithathu, ukusebenzisa amathuluzi okuxhumana nokuhlelwa kwemisebenzi yokuhlangana – ukukhuphula ukuhamba kwamandla
Amathuluzi okuxhumana asaziwe kusukela kudala njengomhubhe ophakathi komuntu nezulu, ukuhamba kwawo kuthuthukisa isikhala, kuzoqeda imimoya emibi, futhi kulungise indlela yokuhlangana kwamandla emzimbeni, kukhuphule ukuvikeleka nokuqina. Kulokhu, lapho ubheka ukuhamba kwamanzi:
1. Ukukhetha amathuluzi: Ngokwenza imizwa yakho, khetha isikringi (ukuhlanza okuhle), ukumisa okunembile (ukuvikela), ibhakede ledwala (ukwazisa umqondo), nandlu yeqanda (ukuthinta isimo).
2. Umcimbi wokuvula: Bamba amathuluzi, uhamba ngokuhamba endleleni, uhamba ngaphezu kokuphakanyiswa, uthumele izikhumbuzo noma izinguquko.
3. Ukudlulisela izwi: Kwesinye isikhathi, shaya amacala akho, ube nokucabanga, "ukuze kukhumbuleke", "ukwandisa", "ukuthokozisa", "ukuvula" njll. Njengoba usebenzisa umthombo weze, udlulisela izwi.
4. Ukuhlanganisa isiHlomela: Hamba nokwakhiwa kwemijololo, usebenzise isikhumbuzo esihamba ngaphezulu, uhamba ngemithombo yokuphila, uhamba nabasebenzi bezephula impendulo.
5. Ukuqondanisa emzimbeni: Lapho izwi lifika, xhumanisa imizwa nemisebenzi ehlukahlukene, cabanga ngendlela elula.
6. Ukuhamba komhlaba: Cindezela izandla emhlabeni, ufake izikhumbuzo zokuthokozisa ukuze uhlanganise isiqhwa namadolo wokuhlangana.
7. Ubufakazi bokugcina: Uzingela izwi lokugcina, ubambe izandla, ungena ouhlanga, ushayele, ucela umusa, bese ucela ukuvuselelwa.
Okwesine, ukucwaninga ngemfihlo zezinye izikhathi zempilo nezinsizakalo zokuphila
Ukwenza uSuku lokuzalwa uyenzeka empilweni, kuyavula umgomo wokubheka ukuphila kwangaphambili. Abadlali bahlola izwi ukuze baqale ukucabanga, bakha umnyango wendlela yokuhlola emakhanda. Izinyathelo zimi kanje:
1. Zilungise kahle esikhumbuzweni, uvale amehlo, ulalele izwi lokuphakanyiswa, ungene, futhi unethezeke.
2. Beka ukuqonda kwempilo engalungile nezingxenye ezinhlanu
3. Landela izwi, khumbula izikhumbuzo ezihambelana nezinye izimo, abanye imibono, bese ubeka kabusha indawo engcono.
4. Uma uqhamuka nenye indlela, ungaphazanyiswa, ubuze imibono nezinzwa.
5. Uma ubuwambo ibangaBhi isikhiphe umbono, ungathola izinzwa ezikhalweni ngezinyathelo ezithile, ubengabheki ngezikhumbuzo, uthumele ungqozi othandweni, ubhalise ekuphileni.
6. Uma uqeda, cisha, ungakhethi okungaphakathi.
Okwesihlanu, izindlela zokwakha umkhawulo wamandla avikelayo
Njalo uhambo luthwala izinto ezingaziwa. Uhlobo lwezulu luwumzuzu ophambili wokwakha umkhawulo ophephile. Lezi yizinyathelo ezihamba zokwakhiwa:
1. Khombisa umkhawulo: Umelela phakathi kwezikhumbuzo, ucabange umjikelezo ophakathi, lawa izindleko ezincane, zikhona ezivela empahleni.
2. Ukuxhumanisa izwi : Imiklamo echumayo ohlanganyela khona, uze kuphela.
3. Khuthaza umbono ovikelayo: Nakuba imiyalezo ilawulwa kukho.
4. Imininingwane eqinile: Kukhona engatholakali.
5. Khombisa ithegi: Thola izikhumbuzo eziphakanyiswe njalo.
6. Susa umkhawulo: Ukuklama okuvumelana nezimo, ugweme ukukhumbula izinkanyezi.
Okwesithupha, izindlela zokwandisa isikhathi kahle nokuqinisa
Ngokwenza ukufana, abadlali kufanele benze izinzuzo ezinhle:
1. Beka imiphumela: Ubenze kuqhakamaniswe nokuqonda, kulungisekwe nezinkanyezi.
2. Ukhulume izwi elithile: Abanye bahlola izithupha zesikhumbuzo somoya.
3. Bhalise ukucabhoya: Bhalisela abanye bonke abangazange bakhulume ngemibono nokucabanga.
4. Gcina iminyango: Ukubhalisela ubungcweti, kungenzeki ukuthola.
5. Inkinga enhle: Abakhanyisa izwi, kubona ukujabula kwezidingo.
6. Gcina ukuhlola izikhumbuzo: Ungasho, uthumele imibono.
Okwesixhenxe, izinyathelo zokuqhubekisela phambili
Ukufinyelela impumelelo, abadlali badinga ukuqhubeka nezenzo ezinhle:
1. Dala imikhuba yokuphefumula. Uze ufane...
2. Qhuba izwi lokuhlanganyela. Ukwehliswa.
3. Thuthukisa ukuxhaswa. Qaphela...
4. QHuba umphakathi. Uthi, abanye...
5. Landelela futhi uhlanganyele.
6. Bhalela omunye.
Okwesishiyagalombili, izithombe ezisezindaweni: Isikhumbuzo sokugubha izinsuku ezinhle zasemaphandleni
Njengoba ukwehla kwephepha okumaphakathi kudabula uMali, abanye basakhasini abavele bemncane. Umfundi ofaka ibhande, uyakhela umkhumbi, emaphathisile. Umdlali ubonisa izithombe zamachashazi amancane ahlangana ukuze avumele uthuli. Uhliza ibhakede awakuzanga ezivela, bavula izinkwenkhana zamazulu, uMarhentza umqondisi, udinga ukusizakala amandla angaphezu kwemizwa. Njengoba imishayo ikhuluma, isikhalazo sihambe ngaphambili.
Uhlola umqondisi ovula umnyango, ushayela izintambo, umqondisi uyamdhakaza. Umdlalisi uhlala eduze kokukhumbula isikhathi sokugcina, ukhuluma namadlozi.Resize.yilinto engentanga, iboloko lokukhumbula ukhuthaza abanye.
Okwesishiyagal9, Isiphetho - Inhloso yezenzo iwukushintsha izinzuzo
Esikhathini somgubho phakathi nesikhumbuzo sokuhamba, umdlali akagcini nje ngokwenza izimo zokuphepha, kodwa uyavuma ukuqhamuka komzimba, aqede imimoya, akwazi ukukhokha umqondo omusha nolwesekela. Yena uyafezeka ezithombeni, izinyathelo sanoma iyiphi imizwa eqinile. Ngakho-ke, ngayiphi indawo ebizwa, umdlali uzokhuqa izulu, futhi uyakwazi ukuvikela umqondo.
Isikhumbuzo sokuqhubeka, akukona nje ukuphakama kwezinhloso ezinhle, kodwa ukhuluma ngesiza sokuphumelela, futhi udlule ezinkampanini zokuphakanyiswa nokuqiniswa. Thola indlela yokukhanya nezinye izinyathelo, uthumele, kuphumelele izinkanyezi ezibhalwe ngempela, zithuthukise ukuthola amafayela.